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BHE 089 - ATTACHMENT TO DISCONNECT - Czander Tan

This week we’re joined by Czander to delve into his illuminating insight on the disconnect of attachment types. 
— (8:56) Czander shares his comment on attachment and discusses his thought process on how he figured it out— (20:54) How attachment types make themselves feel not seen and supported so they can adapt— (37:15) Integrating the blindspot is the key to go from functioning (adapting) to being— (44:18) Attachment types seeing themselves as the problem and martyring themselves to persevere in difficult circumstances— (1:00:02) Attachment types projecting disconnect on others because they’re disconnected from themselves— (1:07:04) Attachment types having amnesia seeing re-occuring problems as new each time — (1:18:02) Attachment types are attached to being disconnected from their emotions
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BHE 088 - INTEGRATING THE BLINDSPOT PT.3 [BOOK/LAUNCH]

We’re back at it discussing John’s new instincts book, continuing where we left off with how to integrate the blindspot.
— (4:57) The social approaches— (25:10) Practices for integrating the self-pres blindspot— (37:48) Practices for integrating the sexual blindspot— (58:02) Practices for integrating the social blindspot
If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
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BHE 087 - INTEGRATING THE BLINDSPOT PT.2 [BOOK/LAUNCH]

We’re continuing where we left off with integrating the blindspot.
— (6:00) Hitting the soc-last pain back walls harder exploring our toxic traits— (26:18) Introduction to the instinctual approaches and needs— (40:20) Self-pres approaches— (51:20) Sexual approaches
Stay tuned for more book launch content this month. And if you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
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BHE 086 - INTEGRATING THE BLINDSPOT PT.1 [BOOK/LAUNCH]

We’re continuing to discuss John’s new instinct book. This week we’re getting into the instinctual blindspot.
— (3:17) How we’re invested in not understanding or grasping what the blindspot really is— (5:17) Our experiences of our blindspots— (14:18) What happens when you start to see your blindspot— (17:52) How each blindspot threatens the dominant instinct— (28:55) Self-pres blind— (33:37) Sexual blind — (43:28) The blindspot instinct as the most practical linchpin for transformation and accessing the heart— (53:12) You know you’re hitting your blindspot when you experience acute aversion and ignorance with that instinct
Stay tuned for more book launch content this month. And if you haven’t already, go buy John’s book on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
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BHE 085 - INSTINCTUAL DRIVES AND THE ENNEAGRAM [BOOK/LAUNCH]

John’s instinct book is finally here. The crew is back together to discuss the instincts book to rule them all. 
— (4:03) John’s thoughts and experiences writing new instinct material for his book— (7:58) The clarity of understanding how we’re seeking essential qualities through our instincts— (15:10) The needs and approaches as mechanisms instead of just descriptions of instinct— (27:42) Plans for future books— (32:09) John’s abbreviated Sexual 8 description— (43:29) Self-pres 9 — (54:58) Self-pres 3— (1:02:02) Sexual 4
If you haven’t already, go buy John’s book. https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2TStay tuned for more book launch content this month, and check out this article excerpt on the 27 type instinct combinations: https://www.johnluckovich.com/articles/the-twenty-seven-enneagram-type-and-instinctual-type-combinations

BHE 084 - SOC::HELL [FACE/OFF] - Alexandra oxo Joseph

We’re back with two contrasting social types thrust into a social hell in this surprise face/off between Koala CQ Alexandra and Untouchable Prince Joseph.
— (2:39) Social attachment vs social hexad— (5:36) How does Joseph navigate being social as a negative 4— (13:56) Comparing and contrasting so/sx and so/sp— (31:15) What does closeness mean and what is the aim of social?— (39:22) What causes social anxiety and stress? The social 9 vs social 4 dynamic— (49:30) The social meta of this call and social types revealing themselves as a person— (58:19) Reputation, rumors, and macro-social stress around how you’re perceived putting yourself out there— (1:09:16) The social blind obliviousness roast— (1:18:37) How is social disruption during a connection experienced?— (1:26:37) Receptivity to the social milieu contrasts between attachment and hexad
Check out Alexandra’s instagram @angryenneagram9 for 9 memes and astrology readings.
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BHE 083 - SP:x:HELL [FACE/OFF] - Nancy oxo David

We’re descending into the hell of the self-pres instinct with this face/off between Dominatrix Nancy and Cult Daddy David
— (5:20) The hellish fear vs the comfort stages of self-pres— (9:09) The friction between the pursuit of money for a certain lifestyle and actually getting to live that lifestyle— (11:11) Nancy’s cottage core bi-sexual farm lifestyle goal— (19:37) Pushing the body to extremes is a self-pres high— (24:46) Energy conservation and keeping the blinders on to get the goods— (31:53) Creating a sense of home and why self-pres attachment types overwork— (38:03) How capitalism and self-pres sustainability shape politics and systems— (49:14) The war between the different instinctual worlds and empathy
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BHE 082 - i heard you wanna learn about typing

This week the enneagrammer boys got together to rant and share tips and tricks on the skill of typing. 
— (3:53) Our experiences with self-typing— (10:01) How is it that we can type someone we don’t know?— (14:22) How to approach typings and feedback from family and friends— (17:30) The problem with overreliance on descriptions— (19:12) How do you figure out whether a typing is correct or not?— (22:56) How to impartially observe and not take personality personally — (34:02) How do we know that we’re right?— (40:49) Why it’s necessary to enlist other perspectives to be an accurate typer— (43:52) How to become a better typer
Check out our website and youtube page for more typing videos and services:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIabj3S8xSSiWSpySmr6UyQenneagrammer.com/get-typed

BHE 081 - HEXAD VS ATTACHMENT UNDRESSED III - Courtney Smith (2/2)

Continuing where we left off with Courtney on hexad vs attachment.
— (1:26) How do frustration types relate to one another?— (5:18) How attachment gets in the way of relating to others— (7:46) Hexad vs attachment perspectives and reactions to the typing process— (20:50) How attachment yes/no shows up in 6s— (27:16) Differences in how and why 6/3/9 override the other centers to make decisions— (36:59) The differences in what each attachment type needs to create an attachment— (54:56) Attachment and hexad from the perspective of the instincts 
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BHE 080 - HEXAD VS ATTACHMENT UNDRESSED III - Courtney Smith (1/2)

Courtney joins us to lend her insightful point of view to the hexad vs attachment discussion in this two part conversation.
— (1:26)  An overview of Object Relations and what hexad and attachment mean— (10:40) Why is attachment triggering to hexad types— (12:54) Attachment types figuring out who they are through relationship to someone or something else— (17:22) The limited box of hexad types addicted to frustration and rejection— (30:20) The yes/no dichotomy is a closed hexad point of view that isn’t open to what might unfold beyond the self— (32:44) The phenomenon of attachment types taking on feelings expressed by others as their own— (42:38) The disgust of 4 as the ego’s avoidance of the sense of being violated by unwanted external influences— (48:26) Hexad self-containment is a removal from self-renewal— (55:32) Exploring frustration, attachment, and rejection in child’s play— (1:02:38) How do rejection types relate to one another
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