Big Hormone Enneagram

BHE 38 - Object Relations Daggers to the Heart [Part 3] - Courtney Smith

Cutting deeper and twisting the knife again with Courtney. We’re back with more O.R. insights and stabbings. We look into how to capture trifix essential qualities. The difficulty of attachment types feeling their types and essential qualities. What is essence? How each O.R. affect is an attempt to return to an experience of essence. And how personality tries to do and achieve essence through instinctual drives by trying to manage the O.R. wound. We’ve got a map of consciousness here folks. We mapped this out for our types. 4 (27:15), 8 (38:18), 6 (43:52), 3 (50:23), and last but not least 9 (71:58).

BHE 37 - Object Relations Daggers to the Heart [Part 2] - Courtney Smith

Oh does it hurt so good. Continuing where we left off with Courtney bringing the object relations pain, starting with type 5. Then the attachment types 3 (17:05), 6 (37:43), and 9 (60:25). We get into an interesting theory on why attachment types are more common. Why attachment types have a disconnected use of their home center. And how attachment O.R. is a false individuation.  Eat up pain piggies, and we’ll be back with more O.R. stabbings in Part 3. 
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BHE 36 - Object Relations Daggers to the Heart [Part 1] - Courtney Smith

Prepare to have your minds blown this week as we’ve been graced by the object relations pain queen Courtney Smith. She joins us to share clear new insights on object relations that will rearrange your perspective on why each type is the way they are. We examine the core wound as interpreted by each type in early childhood. What are ‘misses’ in the nurturing and protecting functions and how each type identifies with them? In this episode we cover the core object relations wounds of frustration types 7, 1, 4. Then rejection types 8 and 2. Part 2 of this series will cover 5 and the attachment types.

BHE 35 - Toxic Positivity Culture and the Enneagram

This week we dug up an unreleased but relevant early episode on how the cultural tyranny of positivity gets in the way of inner work and people accurately viewing the types and themselves. #Nota4 vs the self-help compulsion to view type 4 as a positive type. What the gap between 4 and 5 on the symbol represents. How health is not about having positive attitudes or outcomes. How people often use the enneagram to avoid negative truths and reinforce positive type based perspectives. Cultural differences and how it influences the expression of types and what people expect from the enneagram. How class and race creates a culture of not contending with our shadow internally and externally. We wrap up with examples of this playing out with terrible holidays.

BHE 034 |/| Read Between the Lines [Part 1]

This week we dive into the often misunderstood lines of connection and why it’s important as a path for growth. What does it mean when your type goes to the line of integration or disintegration? And why it’s more accurate that we’re drawing on both types in our lines of connection positively and negatively. Starting with the triangle types we go into how each type goes to the types in their lines of connection in healthy and unhealthy ways. As we go along David adds in his abstract ‘birth stories’ insights for each line of connection. We cover 3/9/6, and then 8/5 lines. And we’ll continue with the rest in Part 2.

BHE 033 - TRI-FIXATION HOW-TO GUIDE [Part 2]

This week we’re finishing up our trifix series by exploring some of David’s magical trifix concepts. What is a fix and a stem. How stems form a sub-theme to the core type. The difference between fixes and the lines of connection (integration/disintegration lines). What health means in the enneagram, and how the lines of connection work. How trifix has impacted our growth and self-awareness. How descriptions and definitions get in the way of understanding. And we wrap up with the usual useless beast terribleness.

BHE 032 - ESCAPE MISTYPING HELL

Before we get back to our tri-fixation how-to series we made a pit stop to discuss mistyping and the drama that ensues when people aren’t seen as the type they think they are. The essential role curiosity plays in deeply understanding the enneagram. Why it’s important to separate your ego from your self-typing. The emptiness and disappointment of all the types. What it’s like to realize you’ve mistyped. And letting go of the self-fantasies we prop ourselves up with when identifying with type.

BHE 031 - TRI-FIXATION HOW-TO GUIDE [Part 1]

In case you didn’t know, ya boyz (Nancy❤️RIP) got your back on how to figure out trifix once and for all. In this episode we lay out a guide for landing on your trifix by going into each center and discussing what it’s like to have each fix. We start out with the body/gut center and how each fix is maintaining ego boundaries and distance. Then the heart/image center (26:41) and how each fix is creating identity and self-image. And finally the head center (50:04) and how each fix is overdoing a different style of insight.

BHE 030 - TRI-FIXATION ROAST [Part 3]: You wish

Making your wishes come true with the 3rd round of our BHE Enneagram Universe Syndicate trifix roasts. In this episode we’ll be roasting the following trifixes: 379 DJ (extra dose of abuse as requested), 147 Princess and the Pea, 146 Big Pain, 145 Insectoid, 137 Welcome To My Ted Talk, 136 Middle Manager, 135 Robocelibate, 127 Cool Teacher, 126 Ballbuster/Ok Boomer, 125 Friend Zone.

BHE Bonus: Big Flick Energy - DARK

In our first ever bonus episode, John and Emeka explore the enneagrammic and inner work insights from the Netflix show Dark Season 3. SPOILER ALERT: Don’t listen if you haven’t seen the show. We focus on on the inescapable cycle of the knot and Adam’s futile attempts to free himself. The parallels to inner work and the law of 3. The need for a 3rd force to free ourselves from perpetuating the same patterns that imprison us.