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Sunday Nov 05, 2023
Sunday Nov 05, 2023
Live from Brooklyn backrooms answering your questions.Watch here: https://youtu.be/WlHQcWEglks
— (2:32) How important is trifix order?— (12:10) What feels like boring chores to the sexual instinct?— (17:31) How DG experiences his lines of connection as a 9 with no attachment fixes— (25:26) What cakes would each of us bake?— (30:13) How to rizz up the 3-7 stem?— (36:56) What are the holy ideas and higher centers?— (45:10) Insights from the baaaack roooommms - attachment is the seed for object relations— (52:39) Is so/sx what is represented on all the memes on extraversion?
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DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Tom Waits, Snobby vs Peopley, and Tabatha Coffee. Join to watch typing classes: https://www.enneagrammer.com/daa
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers
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Monday Oct 16, 2023
Monday Oct 16, 2023
The wet heart types. Live pod this weekend. Be on the lookout for details.
— (4:35) Assertive hexad types being out of touch with their shame— (6:26) Shame is not a great word for what the heart types are experiencing / identity needing to feel special— (12:57) Heart types needing to reinforcing pictures to feel a felt sense of specialness— (15:17) Confusing heart type shame with feeling ashamed / shame is the emotion of being out of alignment with value— (25:30) 4 and 4-fix shame— (34:37) Denigration and disgust is the 4 fix reaction to shame— (42:41) 3 and 3-fix shame / being a 3 is like climbing up a downward escalator — (46:10) 3 vs 4 fix compliments and value recognition— (58:32) 2 and 2 fix shame— (1:02:14) 2s supply their own validation— (1:09:07) 2 reaction to shame is to go straight to moral rage and indignation
To sign up for John’s 2024 Egypt Trip visit:https://www.egyptretreats.com/
DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Katie Porter, Snobby vs Peopley, and Iyanla. Join to watch typing classes: https://www.enneagrammer.com/daa
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
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Monday Oct 02, 2023
Monday Oct 02, 2023
The fuming and stewing gut types.
— (4:03) Alexandra wants to be led when she’s in the mood— (9:05) David is very angry at the sun— (16:49) And the plague of bread people— (20:35) Alexandra finally admits she has a rage problem— (30:30) Emeka’s rage is the fuel that keeps the car running people over— (34:25) 8 vs 1 fix anger and boundaries / the games begin once the 8 lets you in— (42:41) 4s and 8s are drama queen inversions of each other— (45:59) The cutting denigrating rage of 1s— (50:02) 1s think they know the one best way to do everything
To sign up for John’s 2024 Egypt Trip visit:https://www.egyptretreats.com/
DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Snobby vs Peopley, Reactive types, and 7w6 vs 6w7. Join to watch typing classes: https://www.enneagrammer.com/daa
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
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Monday Sep 25, 2023
Monday Sep 25, 2023
Delving into the fear and anxiety of the head types.
— (3:57) 5 fear of being contaminated— (10:40) Avarice is a sense that personhood isn’t robust enough to be fully exposed in the world— (11:30) The 8 line to 5 and the 2 line to 8— (16:30) Ways to work on 5 avarice— (19:18) 5 fear as one way endless monologues— (24:17) How Emeka and John experience 5 fix fear— (33:52) 6 fear of fear itself— (37:02) 6 considering all possibilities / fear disguised as responsibility and logic— (46:48) 6 preemptive call outs and self-deprecation / the essence quality of 6 is to be the universe’s eye— (50:33) 5 subjectivity vs 6 objectivity— (57:37) Toxic 7 fear— (1:06:30) 7 is running from the limitations of what is— (1:10:47) 7s need to get in touch with their own generation instead of just consuming— (1:15:04) 7 anxiety showing up as manic consumption
To sign up for John’s 2024 Egypt Trip visit:https://www.egyptretreats.com/
DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on James Sexton, Reactive types, and 7w6 vs 6w7. Join to watch typing classes: https://www.enneagrammer.com/daa
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
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Sunday Sep 17, 2023
Sunday Sep 17, 2023
— (8:25) Riffing on new terms for social / resonance and frequency— (15:08) Social as a 3D matrix / What is the big deal with what social types are looking for?— (20:15) We feel social chemistry with those who we feel regulated by— (23:17) Social boners and turn ons / the sensation of social in the body— (26:42) Social-blinds aren’t updating social impressions as the connection evolves— (30:03) Do the social-blinds confuse sexual attraction with socal attraction?— (39:52) How do the social-blinds recognize when they’re being cared for or that they care?— (48:03) Social resonance is either there or it’s not— (51:58) Are we not seeing our social impact? / leaving behind a graveyard of missed connections— (1:00:12) The essence of each instinct and it’s distorted
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DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on James Sexton, Bad Bunny, and HRH Collection. Join to watch typing classes: https://www.enneagrammer.com/daa
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
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Friday Sep 01, 2023
Friday Sep 01, 2023
A sexual 4w5 and a social 4w3 walk into a bar.
— (4:21) Vulnerability and sensitivity as a 4— (7:21) The difference between 9 sensitivity and 4 sensitivity— (10:55) Type 4 is over-individuating to express singular identity— (13:30) Joseph won’t laugh at your jokes / 4 image ego self-editing and controlling natural heart expression— (16:37) John’s 4 frustration shows up in his romantic relationship and creativity— (21:05) The crippling self-limiting image rigidity of 4— (25:06) Joseph’s social 4 frustration and shame with social chemistry— (29:57) Getting dumb and allowing humiliation as a pathway to loosening up 4 image rigidity— (46:02) Feeling deficient about getting into the body— (52:27) Getting embodied in sexuality— (57:51) Timeless sense of identity of heart types— (59:26) Dat sweet syrupy line to 2 overcorrecting for being self-absorbed
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DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Couple’s Therapy, Bad Bunny, and HRH Collection. Join to watch typing classes: https://www.enneagrammer.com/daa
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
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Friday Aug 25, 2023
Friday Aug 25, 2023
A horde of social types attempt a roast of the social-blind legends.
— (7:55) Let the roasts begin — (10:50) Creeps and Homewreckers— (13:19) The limited personas and channels of engagement of social blinds— (14:33) Joseph’s social 4 impressions of working with social blinds / social blinds being terrible judges of people— (20:21) Podcasting in the dark vs the social of communicating and being perceived on video— (29:36) Are the social types actually roasting the social-blinds? / social blind roasts sound like personal grievances — (37:30) SX/SP’s annoying fixation on romantic relationships and inappropriate sexual heat— (42:50) The social blind life or death objectifying approach to social connections / the stagnation around sx flavor— (50:14) Missing out and not participating in the field of relatedness and social co-regulation— (1:03:10) Social blind obliviousness is hilarious and freeing— (1:08:14) The personal personhood of social vs the personal flavor of sexual — (1:10:36) Personal anecdotes of the feeling in the body of each blindspot— (1:15:26) Why the social blinds are so amazing— (1:23:29) What the social blinds hate about social blinds
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DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Couple’s Therapy, Bad Bunny, Marianne Williamson. Join to watch classes at: https://www.enneagrammer.com/daa
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Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Master the basics with John and Josh’s new foundational enneagram school. Sign up for their 6-part class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
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Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
We’re joined by two social types, Ikram & Kristen, to explore the pain and suffering of the social instinct.
— (12:33) Post-zone reflections on social pain and longing— (16:44) Potential dangers in social space— (22:48) The naivety of social-blinds with the social game— (26:50) Why people tear others down to prop themselves up— (29:47) Social is how we project our inner identities and shadows out into the world— (36:18) Dysfunctional social sabotage and attachment dynamics— (40:29) Our nervous systems are regulated by other people / the healing power of connection— (49:30) Owning your own social danger and parasocial obsessions— (1:08:33) Personal encounters with social wounding
Get the last spot on Alexandra and Josh’s new Attachment Support Group:https://www.theenneagramschool.com/attachment-support-group
DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Couple’s Therapy, iShowSpeed, Marianne Williamson. And get typed at https://www.enneagrammer.com
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Consider supporting us with a donation if you enjoyed the show:https://paypal.me/bighormonevenmo - @bighormonecashapp - $bighormone
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Master the basics with John and Josh’s new foundational enneagram school. Sign up for their 6-part class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
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Saturday Aug 05, 2023
Saturday Aug 05, 2023
Introducing the attachment support group, brought to you by Alexandra and Josh.
— (12:36) Why do attachment types need support?— (14:18) A brief overview on what attachment types are— (20:17) What accountability means for attachment types / waking up from self-abandonment — (29:00) Attaching vs preference / the gift of attachment is flexibility— (33:52) The value of a group that facilitates self-seeing and self-holding— (40:17) A space to witness and acknowledge grief— (42:30) BHE is a hexad support group— (48:58) The goal isn’t to become like hexad types— (55:05) The format and bullet point topics for the classes
For more on the Attachment Support Group visit:https://www.theenneagramschool.com/attachment-support-group
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Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Master the basics with John and Josh’s new foundational enneagram school. Sign up for their 6-part class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Theo Von, Couple’s therapy, Vincent Gallow. And get typed at https://www.enneagrammer.com
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
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Saturday Jul 29, 2023
Saturday Jul 29, 2023
We’re back roasting the crackhead and lovebomb babies of the enneagram.
— (22:17) Why do we call self-pres blinds babies? / Overly dependent on the attention of other people— (26:24) Self-pres is self-regulation and self-containment. Not just paying your bills and taking care of yourself— (29:54) Difficulty making long term choices / a blindspot for one’s limitations— (34:18) Sp-blinds identifying with their capacity to be affected by others— (37:30) Sp blinds still stuck in high school / connection and chemistry without animal reality— (41:58) Slippery conversational amnesia— (43:47) Hobosexuals and so/sx frivolous bling display / personality as a juicy social ornament— (52:10) Social activism but make it cool / best friends way too fast— (54:57) sx/so mist is just mist / catfish lovebombers— (58:43) DG’s compatibility with sx/so and being stuck in yearning / love in the air without a foundation to grow— (1:03:42) sx/so bimbofication
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Master the basics with John and Josh’s new foundational enneagram school. Sign up for their 6-part class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/first-offering
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
DAA — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Keke Palmer, SX Heart Types, Vincent Gallow. And get typed at https://www.enneagrammer.com
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
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