Big Hormone Enneagram

BHE 136 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART II] - Josh Lavine

Picking up where we left off with Josh and Spiral Dynamics.
— (1:38) The conflict of what it means to help people with the enneagram from the worldviews of different stages of development— (7:33) Yellow distinguishes between and integrates interior subjectivity and external objectivity— (12:53) DG’s 7-fix ain’t got time for yellow— (16:31) Yellow makes finer distinctions beyond Green’s assumption that everyone’s whole— (20:43) The limitations of Yellow is the insistence that everyone can develop — (25:57) Teal has an awareness of construct as a vantage point for meaning making — (29:55) The way to develop is to reach the limits of your level’s framework— (32:24) Is DAA an example of a yellow or orange holding of the enneagram?— (37:42) Assertive types seeming orange and the need to integrate both an inner and outer orientation— (42:03) The value system of each type’s fixation evolves through the developmental stages
Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their first class — A Developmental View of the Centers at https://www.theenneagramschool.com/
Don’t miss Emeka and John on the ‘best of’ Enneagram Global Summit (we make some cheese when you sign up)shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs22a23961/a23961shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs22JohnL/JohnL
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble and attend his weekly study group:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
https://www.johnluckovich.com/the-study-group
DAA — Become more fluent in the language of the enneagram thru the practice of typing. Watch recent classes on the Liver King, Assertive 9s, Khabib. And get typed at enneagrammer.com
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email bhepodcast@gmail.com or DM us with a pre-recorded voice message

BHE 135 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART I] - Josh Lavine

BHE 135 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART I] - Josh Lavine
Josh of What It’s Like To Be You is hangin with us this week. He broke down how the enneagram is missing and needs a developmental* model (*Not Riso’s Levels of Development)
— (14:44) Our understanding of the enneagram evolves with the development of an introspective eye— (16:51) The ability to see oneself is a developmental achievement / words have different interpretations and meanings for each stage of development— (19:50) Riso’s levels of development is a measure of identification and awakening. It’s not a vertical developmental model— (21:33) Ken Wilber’s theory of everything and the difference between waking and growing up / the enneagram has a waking up framework but needs a growing up framework— (24:12) An example of what development is and how the rational-objective stage might react to the enneagram— (27:46) Spiral dynamics orange to green is a shift from the rational-objective to the personally subjective and the inner world— (30:12) Growing is an expanding sense of our capacity for meaning making— (34:54) How a lack of understanding of this developmental view limits the enneagram and the discourse around it— (40:15) The enneagram world is characterized by green empathy / the shadow and blindspots of green— (47:57) At green everyone’s subjectivity is equal and valid / Green fails to realize that subjectivity and the ability to see oneself is unequal and can grow
Check out thirst demons Emeka and John on the ‘best of’ Enneagram Global Summit (we make a little cheese when you sign up)shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs22a23961/a23961shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs22JohnL/JohnL
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble and attend his weekly study group:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
https://www.johnluckovich.com/the-study-group
DAA — Become more fluent in the language of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on the Liver King, Heady 9s vs Gutty 6s, Watch our end of the year special. And get typed at enneagrammer.com
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email bhepodcast@gmail.com or DM us with a pre-recorded voice message

BHE 134 - THE 2 REJECTION EPISODE - Niklas Wilkens

Niklas joins us to dive more into the inner workings of our favorite type.  
— (11:22) Niklas’ journey realizing and seeing his 2 rejection type structure— (14:18) Emptiness is what ignites the 2’s rejection dynamic— (17:38) The irritating penetration of 2 rejection / what’s behind the desperation of the possession dynamic— (21:09) The all or nothing of rejection prevents seeing the dynamic / the instinctual blindspot as the gateway— (27:54) The 2 and 8 oppositional relationship to life force / contending with the rejected shadow self— (37:59) 2’s shutdown their autonomy to protect the relationship — (41:43) The emotional landscape of 2 is tethered to the dynamic working with the other— (48:58) 8’s shutting down the dynamic because of inability to register hurt and nuanced sensitivity— (57:49) Niklas’ experience of the fixation of flattery and ingratiation— (1:04:06) Emptiness and Almaas’ theory of holes / contending with the uncertainty 
Check out ya boyz Emeka and John on the ‘best of’ Enneagram Global Summit (we make some money when you sign up)shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs22a23961/a23961shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs22JohnL/JohnL
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
DAA — Become more fluent in the language of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on the Liver King, MC Ride, Competency types. And get typed at enneagrammer.com
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email bhepodcast@gmail.com or DM us with a pre-recorded voice message

BHE 133 - WE GIVE YOU 2-WINGS - Alexandra

Our favorite type finally got winged.
— (1:27) How much does the center of the wing play a role?— (22:21) Contrasting the attachment 3-wing vs the frustration 1-wing— (27:12) 2w3 as a mouth and emoji queen— (38:09) Justifying Pride with the double image of 2w3 vs the superego of 2w1 / the assertiveness of 2s— (42:37) Ego boundaries of assertive, withdrawn, and superego types / why superego types can seem very assertive at times— (46:59) How the wings support the emotional leverage of 2— (51:27) Frustration as a singular ideal makes 2w1 far more specific in their offering and unadaptable — (59:19) Your back pocket type was your past life type— (1:03:06) There’s a lot of energy around 2 because we’re all starving for love
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
DAA — Become more fluent in the language of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on assertive 9s, MC Ride, Competency types. And get typed at enneagrammer.com
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email bhepodcast@gmail.com or DM us with a pre-recorded voice message

BHE 132 - [LIVE POD] BROOKLYN BEDROOM EDITION

Coming to you live from a brooklyn bedroom in the zone. A round the chat circle audience q&a pod. Watch the video pod here: https://youtu.be/cXMTPc5YIHo
— (1:27) Awkward soc-last attempts to kickstart the pod— (9:50) How everyone got into the enneagram and what it has done for them? — (11:58) Celia, a 6w5 middle manager, mistyped as an 8 before finding us— (13:14) Sarah, a social 9 DJ, found the enneagram through evangelical christian content and mistyped as a 4— (17:44) Kristen, a social 9 Bermuda, mistyped as a 5 before finding the pod and turning her life upside down — (23:24) Gray, social 3 Kyle, set her life on fire after encountering herself in a zone— (27:56) Josh, a social 3 Bermuda and host of What It’s Like To Be You, gives us his podcast intro voice— (30:40) Michaela, a social 3 DJ, found us through instagram memes— (33:10) Sammy, a self-pres 9 Hateful Ghost, was upset to find out she was triple withdrawn— (41:03) Kaisa, a sexual Flatline 9, came all the way from Finland to go deep with us— (47:12) How do attachment types stop caring?— (50:36) Happy Birthday to StJUCE— (53:12) Alexandra and others give their take on integrating the psychological mixing of the sexual instinct (audio issues abound)
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
DAA — Become more fluent in the language of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on assertive 9s, Anton Lavey, Reactive types. And get typed at enneagrammer.com
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email bhepodcast@gmail.com or DM us with a pre-recorded voice message

BHE 131 - DAHMER’S A 9

Happy Halloween. Send in your questions and topics for the upcoming live pod. 
— (3:38) Dahmer as an attachment type and death obsessed soc-blind— (10:49) The hot serial killer phenomenon / serial killers as an aesthetic  — (15:31) The disconnection from death in the west as a lived experience creates a shadow death obsession— (25:44) The social and type dynamics that allowed Dahmer to get away with it for so long— (26:22) Dahmer fandom and serial killer fixation as an example of our collective lack of relationship to death — (34:41) Alcoholism as self-medication for loneliness and social isolation— (43:17) We should explore how to make and keep friends / We’re lonely because we’re disconnected from ourselves— (49:18) Dahmer’s attachment to disconnect and dissociation from reality— (55:07) Dahmer had a growing inner impulse centered around autonomy / everything happening to the 9
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
DAA — Become more fluent in the language of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on 3-wings, Anton Lavey, Reactive types. And get typed at enneagrammer.com
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email bhepodcast@gmail.com or DM us with a pre-recorded voice message

BHE 130 - KALI IN THE HOUSE [PART II] - Julie Harris

Picking up where we left off with Julie of Riverbend Coaching and the archetypal feminine.
— (6:32) Julie starts us off with a short guided practice to bring us back into the space of the feminine — (10:14) People are not in touch with their responses from the pelvis and genitals  — (12:10) The head center through the lens of the feminine— (17:01) The panoramic vision of the feminine head center makes us aware of the whole and the emerging facets of the truth of what’s happening now— (21:00) The multi-dimensional faceted learning approach we’ve brought to the enneagram has a feminine contextual thinking style— (26:22) Dahmer fandom and serial killer fixation as an example of our collective lack of relationship to death — (30:54) The bright feminine archetype of 2 vs the dark and fierce feminine archetypes of 4 and 8— (41:28) We have a need to integrate ferocity in the feminine as an antidote to projecting that energy out of oneself— (44:10) The allowing and receiving of the feminine is an engaged receptivity, not a passive receptivity— (46:12) Julie, Nancy, and Alexandra’s experiences of being women in a culture lacking relationship to the feminine — (53:53) Dealing with the internalized misogyny of “I’m just a girl”— (1:03:11) Masculine vs feminine forms of practice
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
DAA — Learn how to see with the eyes of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on 3-wings, rejection fixes, wings vs fixes. And get typed at enneagrammer.com
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
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BHE 129 - KALI IN THE HOUSE [PART I] - Julie Harris

Julie of Riverbend Coaching is here with us to explore the archetypal feminine.
— (6:48) Why and how Julie connected the archetypal feminine and the enneagram’s 3 centers— (9:04) The feminine in the body center — sacred form / the fertile matrix— (14:45) The feminine in nature is an uncontrollable force that gives life— (15:24) Could the goddesses be connected to the types?— (19:59) The patriarchy compartmentalizes and the goddesses can both be sexual and nurturing— (21:21) Developing the feminine: Being more in your senses and open to the experience / welcome the shadow / don’t seek certainty or stasis— (25:42) The patriarchy perpetuates a lack of being in touch with oneself and the natural cycles of the feminine— (33:19) The feminine invites you into the beauty of life in all the senses and the creation of new things— (36:52) How a linear directional point of view is applied to inner work vs the unfolding nature of allowing inner work to envelope your consciousness— (41:41) A short guided breath practice to experience the masculine and feminine— (49:41) Abundant heart — to be able to be fully with whatever’s happening and the threshold of what’s next— (54:30) There’s no growth in an unwounded life / the feminine welcomes the vulnerability of being wounded— (1:03:24) When we allow ourselves to experience grief it moves and ends up connecting us to what we love
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
DAA — Learn how to see with the eyes of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on 9 and 6 wings, dark 7s, rejection fixes. And get typed at enneagrammer.com
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email bhepodcast@gmail.com or DM us with a pre-recorded voice message

BHE 128 - KILLING YOUR IDOLS - Alexandra

Yes, Dive in.
— (1:40) Sx types and Sx middles are most prone to delude themselves into thinking they’re going for what they’re passionate about or self-transforming— (7:18) Social clout chasers with no genuine connection— (8:51) The psychological penetration of sexual can be used to get cheap ego hits that avoids any risk and self-transformation— (12:05) Discussions in John’s study group on using the instinct for ego vs using it to support the real needs of the body and inner life— (14:32) It’s not just attachment types that get into relationships for the wrong reasons— (20:04) You’re not missing out on what you think you are without sexual in the stacking— (24:31) It’s through our core type and dominant instinct that we approach the needs of our other instincts and centers— (27:02) There is no compatibility formula that works as a replacement for two humans meeting each other / how each instinct uses templates to create orientation to others— (35:06) We settle for nonsense because it’s difficult to risk having nothing while expecting more— (39:53) Separating eros from the sexual instinct / idealizing types is like looking through garbage to find something real— (59:06) You’re lame because you’re lame. Not because of your type, trifix, or instincts.— (1:05:06) People quitting the enneagram when their ego fixes are taken away / #nota4 filtering out those using the enneagram to validate their ego— (1:10:12) Fine tuned observation of the self and others is what a group centered on typing encourages / self-observation and misery as the gateway for self-work and change
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
DAA — Learn how to see with the dark arts of the enneagram. Watch recent typing classes on 9 and 6 wings, dark 7s, rejection fixes. And get typed at enneagrammer.com
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email bhepodcast@gmail.com or DM us with a pre-recorded voice message

BHE 127 - THE COURTNEY REJECTION EPISODE [PART II]

Picking up where we left off with Courtney and rejection.
— (1:46) The protection from vulnerability and transactional nature of relationships is true for all of us / But it’s more true for rejection types— (3:24) The different flavors of separateness and intensity of the rejection types— (8:21) How John and Courtney experience rejection in relationships as frustration and attachment types— (14:21) How rejection types can redefine their self-concept in less narrow terms by sensing the automatic wall in the body— (20:20) How to distinguish the not there-ness of rejection vs the not being there of 9— (23:20) Rejection type possession sweeps you up with intensity because it has such a small aperture of personhood— (27:38) How rejection types can work with the sensation of the wall and widen their sense of personhood— (34:34) Rejection types need to revisit vulnerable parts they have cut off in order to avoid becoming more fractional as time goes on— (41:08) Niklas’ interview with Josh and getting a 2’s perspective on rejection
Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T
DAA — Become fluent in the dark arts of the enneagram.Watch recent typing classes on 9 and 6 wings, Kurt Cobain, Courtney Love. And get typed at enneagrammer.com
Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray
Call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email bhepodcast@gmail.com or DM us with a pre-recorded voice message